The literally silent women protagonist leaves a super bad taste in my mouth.
She’s deaf and speaks with sign language, she’s not a silent woman. Like, can we agree that deaf representation in media is important? Can we agree that ASL representation in media is important? This is an adult-oriented romance/sci-fi movie where the female lead is a deaf woman. How can you act like this isn’t significant? The last gif has a deaf woman in the 60s standing up to an aggressive man and telling him to go fuck himself.
This movie is doing something that has probably never been done before. But hey, she can’t talk “normally” like a hearing woman and that’s bad, so go off I guess.
From the trailer it looks like she’s mute, not deaf. So I’m gonna add that on an artistic level, the mute protagonist is also probably a direct homage to the fairy tale of The Little Mermaid.
I saw a quote somewhere from Octavia Spencer, saying that she thinks one of the best things about this movie is that, since the two romantic leads are mute, much of the dialogue in the movie is spoken by a black woman and a closeted gay man, two people whose voices would have been silenced in real life by 1960s society.
I read an article about how Millennials don’t carry cash on them and got annoyed and literally yesterday I was out with a group of friends and NONE of us had cash
I mean if you get robbed you can cancel the card and transactions. if you get robbed for cash that’s it man
Exercise: Assessing Your Parent’s Emotional Immaturity
Read through the following statements and check any that describe your parent. Since all these items are potential signs of emotional immaturity, checking more than one suggests you very well may have been dealing with an emotionally immature parent.
My parent often overreacted to relatively minor things.
My parent didn’t express much empathy or emotional awareness.
When it came to emotional closeness and feelings, my parent seemed uncomfortable and didn’t go there.
My parent was often irritated by individual differences or different points of view.
When I was growing up, my parent used me as a confidant but wasn’t a confidant for me.
My parent often said and did things without thinking about people’s feelings.
I didn’t get much attention or sympathy from my parent, except maybe when I was really sick.
My parent was inconsistent - sometimes wise, sometimes unreasonable.
If I became upset, my parent either said something superficial and unhelpful or got angry and sarcastic.
Conversations mostly centered on my parent’s interests.
Even polite disagreement could make my parent very defensive.
It was deflating to tell my parent about my successes because it didn’t seem to matter.
Facts and logic were no match for my parent’s opinions.
My parent wasn’t self-reflective and rarely looked at their role in a problem.
My parent tended to be a black-and-white thinker, and unreceptive to new ideas.
-Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson
Abusers are lying to you. whatever they’re saying, the truth is the reverse.
You’re not incompetent. even if you were, why would they feel the need to convince you of it? Why would anyone feel the need to convince other person they’re stupid or incapable of independence or weak? It makes no sense, except if they find your competency a threat, except if they find your intelligence a threat, except if they find your independence a threat. Why would they ever try to break your confidence except if it’s threatening for them to have it? Why would they try to convince you that you’re less than human, unless your humanity is threatening to them?
Why would they argue reasons they’re allowed to hurt you? Why would they argue that they’re a good person and mean well despite fighting their way to hurting another, and acting like it’s their right? Why would they attack you for being too sensitive or weak or deserving of pain when they hurt you? Wouldn’t anyone normal try extra hard to spare a sensitive person from pain? To protect the weak? Isn’t it normal to feel compassion towards vulnerability? And not hostility? How do they expect to get away from their true nature being seen when they’re literally shouting that it’s in their nature to attack the weak, to hurt the sensitive, to exploit the vulnerable, to punish someone for simply being who they are?
Their logic is always based on the fact that they’re monsters.
i understand when ur 13 and u just realized u have a mental illness and ur so relieved to know there are other ppl going thru the same thing as u, its easy to slip into the idea that your newly labeled thoughts and behaviors are normal and okay.
they are not. suicidal thoughts arent normal. violent impulses arent normal. delusions and hallucinations arent normal.
now that you have a name for this behavior you need to seek help. dont let tumblr trick you into thinking unhealthy coping mechanisms are the only ways to deal with your mental illness. dont let it fester, dont let it worsen. seek as much help as you can. actively try to better yourself.
Cptsd is a more sever form of ptsd. It is delineated from this better known trauma syndrome by five of its most common and troublesome features: emotional flashbacks, toxic shame, self-abandonment, a vicious inner-critic, and social anxiety.
Emotional flashbacks are perhaps the most noticeable and characteristic feature of cptsd. Survivors of traumatizing abandonment are extremely susceptible to painful emotional flashbacks, which unlike ptsd do not typically have a visual component. These flashbacks are sudden and often prolonged regressions to the overwhelming feeling-states of being an abused/abandoned child.
Toxic shame obliterates a cptsd survivor’s self-esteem with an overwhelming sense that he is loathsome, ugly, stupid or fatally flawed. Toxic shame often inhibits us from seeking comfort and support.
If you are stuck viewing yourself as worthless, defective, or despicable, you are probably in an emotional flashback.
— Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving; Pete Walker; pg 3-6 (via thetwistedrope)
